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  • 8 Meaningful Steps to Close Out 2025 Strong

    As we begin to close the door on 2025, there’s this collective feeling in the air… part reflection, part momentum, part “holy crap, how is it already December?” And if you’re anything like me, you’re ready to close the year feeling aligned, grounded, and proud of the work you’ve put in.

    Here are the 8 things every one of us should be doing to finish 2025 strong, healthy, and on purpose…with a few of my personal favorites sprinkled in, because sometimes the little things are what keep us grounded.

    1. Revisit Your Wins, Even the Small Ones

    (Guys, this is sooo important.)

    We move so fast we forget to acknowledge what we’ve actually done. Pull out your camera roll, your planner, your notes app, and look at everything you’ve accomplished this year. You’ll be amazed at how much you’ve grown, even in moments that felt heavy or messy.

    Pro tip: This is also the perfect moment to light a candle, sip a warm mug of instant bone broth (my winter go-to), and let yourself actually appreciate how far you’ve come.

    2. Audit Your Habits

    Your habits tell the truth long before your goals do. What’s working? What’s draining you? What needs to stay in 2026 and what needs to go?

    This is the season for honest evaluation, NOT judgment.

    3. Check Your Biomarkers, Not Just Your Weight

    Energy, strength, sleep, stress, hormones, muscle mass, hydration, recovery…these matter just as much—maybe even more—than the number on the scale.

    And yes, this is where my bioactive peptide foundation (Fit + Lean + Hydrated) has become a huge part of my own health baseline. Getting real data and supporting your body from the inside out is game-changing.

    4. Fall Back in Love with Your Warm-Up

    We’re in such a rush to hit the ground running that we skip the part that keeps us healthy. Whether it’s your warm-up at the gym, the way you start your work day, or your morning routine, slow down.

    Preparing well is the foundation for performing well.

    And if you need a little boost to get started? Turn on a motivating podcast, lately, Ed Mylett’s “One More Day, One More Choice” has been my reset button, but there are tons of great ones available.

    5. Make One Meaningful Financial Decision

    It doesn’t have to be big, but it does need to be intentional.

    💰Increase your savings by 1%.
    💰Pay down a piece of debt.
    💰Organize your taxes early.
    💰Or finally set up the financial system you’ve been avoiding.

    A small move now sets up major ease in January.

    6. Strengthen Your Relationships on Purpose

    Reach out to the people who lifted you up this year. Set boundaries with the ones who drained you. Nurture the connections that make you better.

    You don’t need more people. You need the right people.

    My favorite tradition: picking one friend or family member each week in December to surprise with a message, a note, or even a treat drop-off.

    7. Simplify Your Wellness Routine

    The end of the year isn’t the time to overhaul everything. It’s the time to anchor into the basics:

    • Hydrate (support energy & boost metabolism)
    • Move daily (preferably outdoors)
    • Strength train (lift for longevity)
    • Prioritize sleep (this is when our bodies repair and recover)
    • Support your hormones (decrease cortisol & boost NAD)

    Your future self will thank you.

    And don’t skip little treats, we need those for our wellbeing too. So, for those cozy winter evenings, a chocolate mug cake has saved many nights for me. You’re welcome!

    8. Set a Theme for 2026 (Not a Resolution)

    Instead of a long list of goals you’ll forget by February, choose a theme—a word, phrase, or intention, that guides your decisions.

    Clarity. Strength. Expansion. Ease. Resilience.

    Let it shape the year before it even begins.

    Lastly…

    Closing out a year isn’t just about tying up loose ends; it’s about stepping into the next chapter with intentionality, strength, and self-respect.

    You don’t need perfection. You just need direction.

    Here’s to ending 2025 grounded, grateful, and ready for whatever comes next. Remember, joy doesn’t just happen, you create it through tiny choices, tiny rituals, and tiny moments that remind you who you are.

    Grab your 🎧 … I dropped a fun Christmas playlist for you. Enjoy! 🎄

    Cheers to new beginnings.


    Denise xo

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  • Staying Motivated in an Unmotivated World

    “The world is full of wonder for those with eyes to see.” — Unknown

    Some days it feels like we’re all swimming against the current, doesn’t it? We wake up with good intentions, only to be met with headlines and algorithms designed to divide us, overwhelm us, or convince us that the world is falling apart.

    And when you’re constantly bombarded with negativity, staying motivated becomes a real challenge.

    But here’s the truth: 👉🏼 we have far more in common than the media wants us to believe. We’re all humans navigating a busy, messy, beautiful life the best we can. And especially during the holidays, a season that should be meaningful and magical, motivation can dip hard.

    For some, this time of year brings joy. For others, it brings pressure, loneliness, grief, financial stress, or the temptation to say, “Screw it,” abandon routines, and spiral.

    Your diet? Your fitness? Your sleep? Your habits? All of it can feel harder to hold onto right now.

    But I want to gently remind you of something: You can make this season glorious…if you enter it with intention.

    Let’s Talk About Intention

    Think back to when you were a child. Christmas was full of magic and wonder, right?

    You didn’t need a reason to believe that something special was coming.
    You didn’t need motivation… you just felt it.

    As adults, we lose that spark.
    We forget what it feels like to sit and dream.
    To slow down.
    To look for beauty.
    To expect goodness.

    But intention brings the magic back. When we decide to look for joy, to create moments, to weave meaning into the season, it changes everything.

    Intention isn’t perfection. Let me say it again, intention isn’t perfection.
    It’s direction.

    So if you’re feeling unmotivated, disconnected, or overwhelmed, here are small but powerful things you can start today that help recharge your mindset, bring back the magic, and anchor you into a better season.

    10 Ways to Bring Back Magic, Motivation & Meaning This Season

    1. Start Your Day With a “Stillness Moment”

    Just 5 minutes. No phone. No noise. Sit with your breath, a warm drink, a candle…something grounding.

    2. Make a December “Joy List”

    Write down 10 things that genuinely spark joy—small or big—and schedule them into your month.

    3. Listen to One Motivational Podcast

    A great one:
    🎧 The Ed Mylett Show
    Perfect for getting back into a powerful mindset.

    4. Read a Book That Re-energizes You

    A beautiful seasonal choice:
    📚 The Comfort Book by Matt Haig
    Short, hopeful reflections that feel like a deep breath.

    5. Set Three Non-Negotiable Goals for the Month

    Keep them simple:

    • Move 20 minutes a day
    • Drink enough water
    • Sleep 7 hours
    • Journal nightly…you don’t need big goals, just consistent ones.

    6. Create a “Digital Boundary Window”

    Turn off news + notifications for at least one hour each night.
    Your nervous system will thank you.

    7. Inject Some Play Into Your Day

    Adults don’t play enough. Bake. Color. Walk through Christmas lights. Watch a holiday movie. Play brings back wonder automatically.

    8. Do One Kind Thing Each Week

    Giving fuels motivation. Write a card, donate gently used items, pay for someone’s coffee, or leave a positive review for a small business.

    9. Reconnect With Someone You Miss

    A text. A call. A coffee date. Connection builds purpose, and purpose builds motivation.

    10. End Each Day With a “Magic Moment Check-In”

    Ask yourself: What was one small moment that felt good today? It rewires your brain toward gratitude and hope.

    A Final Thought

    Motivation doesn’t always appear on its own—sometimes we have to intentionally create space for it. Even in an unmotivated world. Especially now.

    But if you can slow down, breathe deeper, find wonder again, and choose intention… this season can become one of the most meaningful ones you’ve had in years.

    ✨ You deserve a December filled with magic and momentum.
    ✨ And you’re far more in control of that than it might feel today.

    Please share this post with a friend or family member who might need a seasonal boost right now. And, if you missed my recent post, Don’t Go Into The Holidays Without a Plan, you can catch it 👉🏼 here.

    Live boldly,

    Denise xo

  • Ghosting: The Invisible Sabotage of Trust & Respect

    I was creating content for my marketing business when I found myself diving into a topic that’s been on my mind for a while: ghosting. Not the dating kind, but the kind that happens in business and life, when someone simply disappears instead of responding, following up, or having the hard conversation.

    It struck me that this is something we don’t talk about enough, especially as entrepreneurs, leaders, and professionals navigating fast-paced, emotionally charged spaces. So I thought I’d dive in here and open the door for thought and conversation.

    The Real Problem with Ghosting

    We live in a culture of instant gratification and constant notifications, but ghosting has become alarmingly normalized. However, what may feel like an “easy out” in the moment actually causes long-term harm.

    When you ghost someone, whether it’s a potential client, business partner, vendor, or even a friend, you’re not just avoiding discomfort. You’re sending a message (whether you realize it or not) that their time, effort, or relationship wasn’t worth a response.

    And trust me, that message sticks.

    Why It Matters in Business

    Business is personal. Relationships are the currency of any business, and the way we show up, or don’t, directly impacts our reputation and personal brand.

    Whether you’re saying “yes,” “no,” or “not right now,” clarity is a form of respect. People remember how you communicate when things aren’t easy more than they remember the smooth moments.

    Here’s what happens when we DON’T ghost:

    • We build trust, even when we say no.
    • We protect our reputation and brand integrity.
    • We make space for the right opportunities to flow in.
    • We model healthy boundaries without disappearing.

    Why It Matters in Life

    Ghosting doesn’t just show up in business. It can show up in friendships, family, and even the way we relate to ourselves. When we get overwhelmed or uncomfortable, it’s tempting to pull back instead of leaning in.

    But here’s the truth: Discomfort is not a reason to disappear. It’s a sign to pause, reflect, and communicate with care.

    The Bigger Picture: Boundaries ≠ Ghosting

    Sometimes we confuse boundaries with avoidance. Setting a boundary might mean declining a project or stepping back from a relationship, but it still involves communication. Ghosting skips that step entirely and leaves people confused, hurt, or doubting their worth.

    You don’t need to over-explain or over-justify. A simple response can be both kind and firm.

    Try these:

    • “Thanks for thinking of me, but I’m not available for this opportunity.”
    • “I need to step away from this relationship, and I wish you well.”
    • “Right now isn’t the right time for me, but I appreciate your message.”

    Let’s Normalize Showing Up

    I believe communication is a core part of conscious living and working. We’re not here to ghost our way through the hard parts, but rather we’re here to build something better. That means responding. Being honest. Choosing clarity over comfort.

    You don’t have to be perfect. Just present.

    Have you ever been ghosted in business, or accidentally ghosted someone yourself? What did you learn from it?

    Drop a comment or share this post with someone who values showing up. 💬

    Denise xo

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  • Men’s Mental Health Matters—Let’s Talk About It

    June is Men’s Mental Health Month, and this message has been sitting on my heart all month. I’ve put off writing it—maybe because it’s deeply personal, maybe because it’s hard to find the words. But I didn’t want the month to end without sharing.

    This isn’t expert advice. This is just a daughter and a cousin speaking from experience.

    I lost two incredible men in my life to suicide—my father and my cousin. Two lives gone far too soon, both in silence.

    These losses cracked me open. But they also opened my eyes.

    The Silent Struggle

    Men are often raised with the belief that showing emotion is weakness—that strength means silence and vulnerability is shameful. This quiet conditioning is dangerous.

    According to the CDC, men die by suicide nearly four times more often than women. And yet, so many of them suffer in silence—carrying stress, pain, trauma, and pressure with nowhere to put it.

    As women, we’re often the emotional anchors in our families and communities. But are we truly seeing the men in our lives? Are we creating safe, judgment-free spaces for them to speak, cry, or just be human?

    What We Can Do

    We can’t fix everything—but we can start by being more aware, more compassionate, and more willing to hold space.

    Here are a few simple, powerful ways to support the men around us:

    • Ask twice. If a man says he’s “fine,” gently ask again.
    • Model emotional expression. Share openly—it gives others permission to do the same.
    • Resist the urge to fix. Sometimes, presence matters more than solutions.
    • Encourage therapy and self-care as ongoing support, not just crisis tools.
    • Speak life into them. Affirm their worth, even when they don’t show they need it.
    • Support healthy male friendships and encourage connection through nature, fitness, or community.

    Where Wellness Meets Mental Health

    Mental health doesn’t stand alone—it’s woven into every part of our well-being. What we eat, how we sleep, how our bodies recover and regulate hormones… it all matters. Especially for men, who are often expected to just “push through.”

    That’s why I take a whole-person approach to wellness. Because men need support for their minds and their bodies.

    One of the tools I’ve seen make a real difference—especially for men—is bioactive precision peptides. These naturally occurring protein messengers help the body heal, regulate, and restore itself at a cellular level.

    Here’s how they can support men’s mental and physical wellness:

    • Hormone balance: Peptides can support healthy testosterone levels, which impacts mood, energy, and drive.
    • Brain clarity: Improved focus, less brain fog, and better emotional resilience.
    • Physical recovery: Faster muscle and joint recovery from workouts—or stress.
    • Deeper sleep: Vital for mental health and nervous system regulation.
    • Longevity: Peptides support cellular repair, immunity, and overall vitality.

    This isn’t about hacks. It’s about giving men the nourishment their bodies and minds need to truly thrive.

    If this speaks to you—or someone you love—I’m offering 10% off peptides this month as a small way to support the men in your life. Sometimes, just introducing them to tools that help them feel better is the spark that changes everything.

    I invite you to explore my Wellness page or shop directly here. As a thank-you for prioritizing your health, I’ll personally send you 10% back on your purchase (before tax). Have questions or want a personalized recommendation? I’m just a message away.

    Resources to Share (and Explore Together)

    Sometimes a book, a podcast, or a shared story can be the bridge to connection or healing. Here are a few worth exploring:

    📚 Books

    • The Mask of Masculinity – Lewis Howes
    • Man Enough: Undefining My Masculinity – Justin Baldoni
    • I Don’t Want to Talk About It – Terrence Real
    • Breaking the Male Code – Dr. Robert Garfield

    🎧 Podcasts

    • The Man Enough Podcast – Honest conversations about masculinity and vulnerability.
    • The Mindful Man Project – Tools and stories for men’s mental wellness.
    • Real Men Feel – Exploring emotional and spiritual wellness for men.
    • On Purpose with Jay Shetty – Purpose-driven insight for all, with episodes centered on men’s issues.

    🧠 Organizations & Support

    My Hope

    I will never stop loving the men I lost. But I will start speaking up more in their honor.

    If you’re a woman reading this, I hope you’ll join me—not just in raising awareness, but in changing how we show up. Let’s ask better questions. Let’s hold space. Let’s help build softer places for the men in our lives to land.

    They deserve to be seen. To be heard. To heal.

    And together—we can help them get there.

    With gratitude,

    Denise xo

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  • Start Scared: Why Fear Doesn’t Mean You’re Not Ready

    I almost didn’t do it.

    So many idea(s) lived rent-free in my brain for months—maybe years. A challenging trail race. A new podcast. This blog. A bold business pivot. A launch in an industry completely foreign to me.

    Each one, pushed off until I felt “ready.” But every time I got close, that familiar voice whispered:

    “Who do you think you are?”
    “What if you fail?”
    “What will people say?”

    Sound familiar? Hello, imposter syndrome, right?!

    Fear has a way of showing up the moment you’re standing on the edge of something important. It tries to protect you by keeping you small, safe, and stuck. But here’s the truth I’ve learned over and over again: you don’t need to feel fearless to start—you just need to move through the fear anyway. And yes, it’s hard.

    Fear Isn’t a Stop Sign 🛑

    We often wait for fear to disappear before we act. But fear doesn’t vanish with time—it quiets down after you start.

    The fear of judgment, failure, or looking like a beginner? Those things feel massive—until you do the thing and realize: you survived. You grew. You’re still standing—stronger, actually.

    And for every person silently hoping you’ll fail? There are so many more watching and cheering for your success.

    And, this might come as a shock…but, no one is thinking about you as much as you think they are. (Seriously.)

    My Turning Point 🌟

    My shift came when I stopped tying my worth to the outcome and started attaching it to the action. That—in the space between fear and movement—is where I believe real impact lives.

    I realized I could be scared and still be ready.
    I could be unsure and still show up.
    I could take messy steps and still make progress.

    I launched the podcast.
    I took the leap into a new business.
    I said yes to the scary things—while my hands were shaking. While the vulnerability felt suffocating, but here I am, alive and kicking. Fear doesn’t kill you, it helps you thrive.

    And you know what? Every single time I’ve done that, I’ve met a new version of myself. Or maybe… I just elevated the one that was already there. (You know what I mean.)

    What’s Waiting on the Other Side 🚀 

    When you move past fear, even just a little, you build trust in yourself. You stop outsourcing your power to perfect timing, approval, or guarantees. You start building momentum—and confidence follows.

    Yes, fear still shows up. That voice doesn’t disappear. But it gets quieter when action gets louder.

    Start Scared. Start Small. Just Start.🔥

    You don’t have to launch the whole thing today. Do it in phases if you have to, but you can take the first step. Book the call. Write the page. Post the idea. Say it out loud. LEAN IN!!

    The momentum you’re craving? It’s already waiting on the other side of that one brave action.

    So here’s your permission slip: You don’t need to be fearless—just brave for 30 seconds.

    I’m cheering for you. Always.

    Denise xo

  • Soft Moments, Strong Heart: My Mental Health Story

    As Mental Health Awareness Month comes to a close, I wanted to take a moment to share something personal I’ve been learning to navigate—social anxiety.

    You might be surprised to hear that from me. I show up, I work hard, I’m driven, I create, I share—and I’m often seen as an extrovert. But behind the highlight reels and daily hustle, there are moments when anxiety creeps in—quietly and powerfully.

    ❗My anxiety has kept me from joining group runs I genuinely wanted to attend.
    ❗It’s made me cancel meetings I’d already prepped for.
    ❗It’s convinced me to skip the gym on days I knew I needed movement.
    ❗It’s even stopped me from nourishing and hydrating my body when I needed it most.

    Social anxiety doesn’t always look like panic—it can look like silence, avoidance, or simply staying small. And if you’ve ever felt that tug-of-war between wanting to show up and feeling frozen by anxiety, you are so not alone.

    The Myth of “All or Nothing”

    One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is this: life doesn’t have to be all or nothing.
    ♥️ We can go hard and be soft.
    ♥️ We can chase goals and take breaks.
    ♥️ We can lead boldly and still need support.

    I haven’t perfected the balance (who has?), but I’m committed to striving for it daily.

    What’s Helped Me: From “Just Deal With It” to Calm

    For years, I just “dealt with it.” I tried gummies, mild meds, and self-talk that didn’t quite stick. Some days were okay. Some were really hard.

    Then I found Calm—a simple, all-natural powder that dissolves on your tongue and gently takes the edge off, without making me feel foggy or tired. It works with your body, not against it.

    It’s like a warm hug in the middle of chaos. I take it before meetings, workouts, or whenever I need a reset—but my favorite time is in the evening. It’s been a game-changer.

    If you’re navigating stress or social anxiety, I encourage you to explore what works for you. And if you’re curious about Calm—or just want to chat about the real, unfiltered stuff—I’m here.

    Mamas, I See You

    My kids are grown now, but I still remember the pressure that came with summer break—keeping everyone busy, managing the chaos, and trying to hold it all together.

    If the thought of it already has you feeling stretched thin, you’re not alone.

    And if you’re looking for a natural way to stay grounded and ease into the whirlwind of summer, Calm might be exactly what you need.

    A study released this month by Columbia University found that 75% of mothers in the U.S. experience some form of mental or physical health challenge. That stat? It’s real—and it’s a reminder that we need tools and support, not just grit.

    A Few Resources for Social Anxiety

    Because I believe in offering support beyond the scroll, here are a few resources I trust:

    • Anxiety & Depression Association of America (ADAA): adaa.org – Tools, support groups, and therapist directories.
    • Mindfulness Apps: Insight Timer, Headspace, and Calm (the app, not the supplement!) all offer free meditations for anxiety.
    • Books:
      • The Anxiety Toolkit by Dr. Alice Boyes
      • How to Be Yourself by Ellen Hendriksen

    You Are Not Alone

    Mental health isn’t a moment—it’s a movement. Whether you’re feeling on top of the world or struggling to leave the house, your experience is valid.

    Give yourself grace. Ask for help. Explore what balance looks like for you.

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    Why? Because I believe in balance. When we feel calm and clear, we can show up as our best selves—in life, work, and everything in between.

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    And don’t forget to visit my Wellness page to learn more about the power of bioactive precision peptides and why everyone’s buzzing about them.

    Let’s keep this conversation going—even after May. Because our mental health matters every month. 💚

    Make Moves, Live Boldly!

    Denise xo

    psst…want a great summer recipe? drop the comment “summer salad” and I’ll send it your way!

  • Confessions of an Overthinker (Hi, It’s Me 👋)

    Hey you! Yeah, you… Are you an overthinker?

    I was talking to a friend today — another serial overthinker whose name shall remain confidential (we’ll call her Nancy to protect her identity 😉).

    Nancy and I were working on customer follow-ups when we both had an aha moment: shorter, more authentic communication is better for the customer and better for us. And yet… there we were, overthinking it to death. Sound familiar?

    Let’s be real — overthinking is exhausting. You replay conversations, second-guess your ideas, delay decisions, and procrastinate on important stuff because… what if it’s not perfect? Cue the sigh. Overthinking feels productive, but it’s actually a master thief — stealing your clarity, confidence, and energy.

    Worse? It feeds right into imposter syndrome. So really, what are we doing?!

    It’s the fast track to paralysis analysis — too many options, too much pressure, and very little action.

    But here’s the truth bomb:
    👉 You don’t need more information. You need more self-trust.
    And trust doesn’t come from being perfect — it comes from taking messy, meaningful action.

    So let’s break the cycle and talk about how to get out of your head and back into alignment.

    Why We Overthink:

    • Fear of failure – We just want to get it right.
    • Imposter syndrome – We doubt we’re enough.
    • Perfectionism – We think every move must be flawless.
    • People pleasing – We’re afraid of disappointing others.

    Spoiler alert: Overthinking doesn’t protect us — it just keeps us stuck.

    🔥 The antidote? Think less. Trust more.

    10 Pro Tips to Overcome Overthinking + Trust Yourself More

    1. Name the Fear
      Get real with yourself: what are you actually afraid of? Naming it takes away its power. Write it down. Say it out loud. Shine a light on it. (Ugh, yes… totally me.)
    2. Try the 5-5-5 Rule
      Ask: Will this matter in 5 days, 5 months, or 5 years?
      Spoiler: probably not. Let it go.
    3. Set a 10-Minute Timer for Decisions
      Your gut usually knows. Give yourself a time limit, listen to your intuition, and go.
    4. Shift from “What If” to “Even If”
      Swap “what if I fail?” for “even if I fail, I’ll learn and grow.”
      That’s where real confidence begins.
    5. Take Imperfect Action
      Progress > perfection. Every time. People are surprisingly forgiving of imperfection when you’re being real.
    6. Create a Daily “Get Unstuck” Ritual
      Walk. Meditate. Dance. Journal. Pray. Voice-record your spiraling thoughts and play them back — they’ll usually sound way less scary than they feel.
    7. Surround Yourself with Action-Takers
      Energy is contagious. Hang with people who move forward, trust themselves, and make bold choices. You’ll soak it up.
    8. Cut the Info Overload
      More content doesn’t equal more clarity. Unfollow, unsubscribe, and tune back in to your own voice.
    9. Anchor into Your Values
      Ask: Is this aligned with who I am and what matters to me? If yes — go. If no — pause.
    10. Celebrate the Tiny Wins
      Confidence is built one decision at a time. Track the small stuff. Reflect weekly on what went right, not just what went sideways.

    🌟 Bonus Tip:
    Stop using ChatGPT for EVERYTHING. Your voice matters. People want your words, your stories, your quirky brilliance. Use tools to enhance, not replace, your authenticity.

    Final Thought

    You’re not here to be perfect. You’re here to be real, honest, and brave. Overthinking won’t get you there — but aligned, imperfect action will.

    So the next time you’re spiraling, pause and ask:

    “What would I do if I trusted myself completely?”

    Then… do that.

    No need to go all in right away — pick a couple of tips to try and ease into the anti-overthinking life. Baby steps, my friend. That’s the vibe I’m going with.

    I’d love to hear how you’re breaking the overthinking habit. Drop a comment, and let’s elevate each other.

    Make Moves & Live Boldly,


    Denise xo

  • Who’s Training Who? My Dogs Might Be the Real Life Gurus

    I’ve hired and worked with many consultants over the course of my career, taken many leadership training classes, subscribed to podcasts, and read and highlighted pages in some of my favorite personal development books. But it turns out, my best life coaches have been at my side (and under my desk) this whole time. They have four legs, fur, and absolutely no understanding of personal space. NONE.

    Meet Stanley and Stella — my rescue pups, my furry soulmates, and, as I’ve recently realized, my life coaches. They may not have diplomas and degrees, but they’ve got great insight. Their wisdom is simple, consistent, and always delivered with a tail wag…especially when treats are involved.

    Masters of Presence
    Stanley doesn’t care about what happened yesterday. Stella isn’t worried about next Tuesday’s meeting. They are fully present. They remind me to stop overthinking, to notice the breeze on a walk, and to enjoy the moment I’m in. When we’re outside, they’re not scrolling, comparing, or planning. They’re living. That’s a lesson I didn’t know I needed.

    Loyalty and Love, Unfiltered
    There is something grounding about coming home to a pair of dogs who act like you’ve been gone for years, even if it’s only been 20 minutes. I mean, seriously, they lose their minds! Their loyalty is unwavering. They remind me to nurture relationships that feel that steady and supportive. If your people don’t light up when you walk in the room, find the ones who do.

    Boundaries Are Everything (except when it comes to personal space..then forget it)
    When Stanley is done for the day, he’s done. He doesn’t ask for permission to take a nap in a sunny corner of the room. He doesn’t feel guilty about rest. He plays hard and rests harder. Stella, on the other hand, has a clear internal clock. She knows when it’s time to pause and when it’s time to move. Lesson learned: rest is productive. Recharge like your well-being depends on it — because it does.

    No Overthinking Allowed (this is a big one, guys!)
    Dogs don’t spiral. They don’t get imposter syndrome or anxiety over what someone meant by “see you soon,” or “k.” They show up exactly as they are. Stella walks into a room like she owns it (and let’s be real, she does). That kind of confidence is contagious. She teaches me to stop second-guessing and start trusting my gut.

    Here’s another life lesson…sometimes when someone says “k” or “see you soon” that’s all it means. Nothing else…just acknowledgement. Let’s try to keep that in check. We don’t have to overanalyze every. single. thing. Dogs sure don’t!

    Consistency Is Queen (and King)
    Walks, meals, treats, and bedtime routines — dogs thrive on structure. And when I stick to a rhythm with them, I thrive too. They’ve taught me that consistency doesn’t mean boring; it means steady growth, predictable peace, and sustainable habits. Showing up daily (even for a walk around the block) is more powerful than waiting for the “perfect” moment.

    So, What If We Took a Page from Their Playbook?

    Stanley and Stella don’t need apps, calendars, or vision boards. They just need love, movement, rest, and purpose. And maybe some peanut butter. They remind me that being present, showing love, setting boundaries, trusting myself, minding my business, and staying consistent are more than just life lessons — they’re a lifestyle.

    My final lesson today? Technically, I’m the one holding the leash—but when it comes to life lessons, they’re leading the pack. 😉

    Make Moves, Live Boldly!

    Denise xo

    **Got a furry life coach of your own? Drop their name and best lesson below!

  • If You Knew Tomorrow Would Change Everything, How Would You Live Today?

    January 1st started like any other day. I was out on the trails — doing what I love — feeling strong, hopeful, and excited about everything I had planned for the new year. I was having fun, taking selfies, showing off some of my favorite skincare, soaking in the fresh start that January always seems to bring. In that moment, life felt solid. Safe. Predictable.

    And then, less than 24 hours later, everything changed.

    One misstep.
    One fall.
    One accident that I never saw coming.

    The day after that first picture was taken, I found myself hurt, scared, facing a serious surgery, and unsure of what the next few months — or even the next few days — would look like. Everything I thought I could count on — my routines, my independence, my physical strength — was stripped away in a second.

    And when I look back now at the photos side by side, it almost doesn’t feel real. How can life shift so dramatically between one sunrise and the next?

    It’s a gut punch reminder that nothing is promised. Not our health. Not our plans. Not even our ability to lace up our shoes and walk out the door.

    If you knew your life could change tomorrow, how would you live today? Would you rush through it? Would you waste it on things that don’t matter or people who aren’t worthy of your time or mind space? Would you stay quiet about the dreams that are burning inside you, waiting for the “right” time?

    Or would you wake up?

    Would you say the thing you’ve been meaning to say? Would you finally take the risk? Would you stop waiting for the “perfect moment” to start living fully? Would you finally start focusing on your health and wellbeing?

    I wish I could go back and tell the version of me on January 1st:
    Savor it. Really, truly savor it. Laugh harder. Hug tighter. Trust your strength, but also respect how fragile this life is.

    But since I can’t go back, I can only move forward — differently.
    Wiser.
    Softer.
    More awake to the small, beautiful details of every day.

    The truth is, life will change. We just don’t get to choose when.

    But we do get to choose how we live right now.

    And today, I’m choosing gratitude. I’m choosing courage.
    I’m choosing to live like it could all change tomorrow — because it can.

    If you’ve been waiting for a sign to do the thing — this is it.
    Book the trip. Start the business. Write the book. Lift weights like your life depends on it — because it does. Get outside. Soak in the sun. Chase the moments that make you feel alive. Whatever it is that’s been tugging at your heart, now is the time.

    We can’t control what tomorrow brings. But we can choose to live fully today.

    Make Moves, Live Boldly!

  • Surviving a Narcissist: The Toxicity, The Chaos, and The Lessons

    Have you ever been the target of a narcissist? If so, you know the mental gymnastics, the manipulation, and the relentless toxicity that come with it. If you haven’t—consider yourself lucky.

    It wasn’t until later in my adult life and career that a narcissist quietly infiltrated my world. My narcissist disguised themselves as good, pure, loving, and honorable—a true chameleon. At first, it was all rainbows and butterflies—until, suddenly, I had no idea what hit me.

    My fight-or-flight instinct kicked in, but instead of running, I looked around at others, who seemed fine, and thought, “It must be me.” (Ugh…a home run for the narcissist.)

    The ironic part? The moment I started confiding in friends and family, they immediately said, “You’re dealing with a narcissist.” It wasn’t one big, obvious event—it was a slow, calculated unraveling. A series of tiny, almost imperceptible manipulations that built the foundation for something far more damaging.

    Fortunately for me, our relationship ended abruptly. At first, I was in shock. But with time—and a lot of self-reflection—I finally felt something I hadn’t in a long time: I could breathe again. Really breathe.

    I was recently talking to a friend about the crushing grip narcissists have on their victims and the slow surrender we unknowingly give them. It’s a psychological game—one designed to strip away your confidence and leave you questioning your reality. And escaping? That’s another battle entirely for so many.

    Breaking free from a narcissist feels like emerging from a cult-like trance—your identity shaken to its core. Thank goodness for the self-help section on Amazon, podcasts, and therapy, right?!

    The Narcissist’s Playbook: A Masterclass in Manipulation

    At first, they charm you (This is known as the honeymoon phase.). They praise your work, admire your talents, and build you up—only to slowly chip away at your confidence. The gaslighting is subtle at first:

    🌀 “I never said that.” (They did.)
    🌀 “I’m sorry you feel that way.” (Zero accountability.)
    🌀 “I’ve done so much for you, and it’s not appreciated.” (Lies.)

    Before you know it, you’re walking on eggshells, second-guessing yourself, and questioning truths you once knew. That’s the toxicity of a narcissist—they LITERALLY rewrite reality to serve their ego.

    The Fallout: Breaking Free from the Cycle

    Realizing you’re in a narcissist’s grip feels like waking up from a nightmare you didn’t know you were trapped in. You start seeing the patterns, the control, the meanness, the manipulation—but getting out? That’s where the real fight begins, especially for those married to one (for the sake of my husband, I want to clarify that I’m not referring to him here).

    Narcissists don’t let go easily. They crave control. They twist narratives, spread lies, and play the victim to maintain their power. And when you finally break free? They’ll do everything in their power to paint you as the villain.

    The Lesson: Reclaiming Your Power

    Here’s the good news—you learn. You recognize the red flags sooner. You set boundaries quicker and stronger. And most importantly, you take back your power!

    If you’ve been through this, you’re not alone. The scars narcissists leave behind are real, but they’re also proof that you survived.

    Want to Outsmart a Narcissist? Listen to This.

    Mel Robbins has hosted remarkable guests who break down the psychology of narcissists—and, more importantly, how to break free from their grip. If you haven’t listened to “Outsmart a Narcissist: A Proven 4-Step Plan to Take Your Power Back,“ it’s a must, so grab your 🎧 headphones and listen with intention and purpose.

    I listened to it on a hike—the place I go to find clarity. I’d love to know what you think after you listen to the full episode.

    For anyone who needs some tips and strategies, I’m including a great resource I found from The Counseling Center Group. Here is “How to Handle a Narcissist: 8 Effective Strategies For Self-Care.“

    Have you ever dealt with a narcissist? Drop a comment or share your experience—because the more we talk about it, the more we reclaim our power, and the more we help others.

    Make moves, live boldly!

    2 responses to “Surviving a Narcissist: The Toxicity, The Chaos, and The Lessons”

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      Anonymous

      You nailed it! Thanks for sharing and reminding us to assess all relationships. Life’s too short to spend time with the wrong people.

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        Denise Irving

        Thank you so much for reading my post, and I’m glad it resonated with you. For people who haven’t experienced this behavior it can take some time to realize what is happening in the relationship.

        Assessing all relationship is spot on!

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