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  • Who’s Training Who? My Dogs Might Be the Real Life Gurus

    I’ve hired and worked with many consultants over the course of my career, taken many leadership training classes, subscribed to podcasts, and read and highlighted pages in some of my favorite personal development books. But it turns out, my best life coaches have been at my side (and under my desk) this whole time. They have four legs, fur, and absolutely no understanding of personal space. NONE.

    Meet Stanley and Stella — my rescue pups, my furry soulmates, and, as I’ve recently realized, my life coaches. They may not have diplomas and degrees, but they’ve got great insight. Their wisdom is simple, consistent, and always delivered with a tail wag…especially when treats are involved.

    Masters of Presence
    Stanley doesn’t care about what happened yesterday. Stella isn’t worried about next Tuesday’s meeting. They are fully present. They remind me to stop overthinking, to notice the breeze on a walk, and to enjoy the moment I’m in. When we’re outside, they’re not scrolling, comparing, or planning. They’re living. That’s a lesson I didn’t know I needed.

    Loyalty and Love, Unfiltered
    There is something grounding about coming home to a pair of dogs who act like you’ve been gone for years, even if it’s only been 20 minutes. I mean, seriously, they lose their minds! Their loyalty is unwavering. They remind me to nurture relationships that feel that steady and supportive. If your people don’t light up when you walk in the room, find the ones who do.

    Boundaries Are Everything (except when it comes to personal space..then forget it)
    When Stanley is done for the day, he’s done. He doesn’t ask for permission to take a nap in a sunny corner of the room. He doesn’t feel guilty about rest. He plays hard and rests harder. Stella, on the other hand, has a clear internal clock. She knows when it’s time to pause and when it’s time to move. Lesson learned: rest is productive. Recharge like your well-being depends on it — because it does.

    No Overthinking Allowed (this is a big one, guys!)
    Dogs don’t spiral. They don’t get imposter syndrome or anxiety over what someone meant by “see you soon,” or “k.” They show up exactly as they are. Stella walks into a room like she owns it (and let’s be real, she does). That kind of confidence is contagious. She teaches me to stop second-guessing and start trusting my gut.

    Here’s another life lesson…sometimes when someone says “k” or “see you soon” that’s all it means. Nothing else…just acknowledgement. Let’s try to keep that in check. We don’t have to overanalyze every. single. thing. Dogs sure don’t!

    Consistency Is Queen (and King)
    Walks, meals, treats, and bedtime routines — dogs thrive on structure. And when I stick to a rhythm with them, I thrive too. They’ve taught me that consistency doesn’t mean boring; it means steady growth, predictable peace, and sustainable habits. Showing up daily (even for a walk around the block) is more powerful than waiting for the “perfect” moment.

    So, What If We Took a Page from Their Playbook?

    Stanley and Stella don’t need apps, calendars, or vision boards. They just need love, movement, rest, and purpose. And maybe some peanut butter. They remind me that being present, showing love, setting boundaries, trusting myself, minding my business, and staying consistent are more than just life lessons — they’re a lifestyle.

    My final lesson today? Technically, I’m the one holding the leash—but when it comes to life lessons, they’re leading the pack. 😉

    Make Moves, Live Boldly!

    Denise xo

    **Got a furry life coach of your own? Drop their name and best lesson below!

  • Navigating Menopause with Strength, Grace, and Grit

    Alright, guys… this might be your cue to exit stage left — no hard feelings. 😉

    Now, for the rest of us….
    Let’s talk about something few of us are or were truly prepared for — menopause. It often arrives unannounced and unapologetic, like a full-force shift you never saw coming. It’s physical, emotional, hormonal — and honestly? A little disorienting.

    But here’s the reframe:
    This isn’t just a phase to “get through.” It’s a powerful opportunity to reconnect with our bodies, shift our mindset, and redefine how we show up for ourselves — stronger, more aware, and in control.

    The Phases: What You Didn’t Learn in Health Class (at least not in my health class)

    Menopause isn’t just one moment — it’s a transition that unfolds in stages:

    • Perimenopause (often begins in your 40s): Irregular periods, hot flashes, mood shifts, and sleep disturbances.
    • Menopause (official when you’ve gone 12 months without a period): A hormonal shift that can affect everything from metabolism to brain fog.
    • Postmenopause (after the 12-month mark): Symptoms may ease, but risks like bone density loss and heart health become more relevant.

    The truth? Every body experiences this differently. But you’re not alone — and you don’t have to just “deal with it.” AND, if your doctor tells you to deal with it, run, don’t walk and find a new OBGYN.

    How to Stay Strong (Even When You Don’t Feel Like It)

    Menopause can feel like your body is working against you. Fatigue, weight gain, muscle loss — all real. But here’s the empowering truth: you can take back control with doable, consistent habits that support your strength and vitality.

    ✨Strength Training Is Non-Negotiable

    As estrogen levels drop, muscle mass and bone density decline — making resistance training essential. Lifting weights 2–4 times per week helps:

    • Boost metabolism
    • Support joint and bone health
    • Improve mood and cognitive function

    You don’t need a fancy gym. Dumbbells, resistance bands, or even bodyweight circuits can build major strength.

    🌿 Check out this article in EatingWell Magazine, “The #1 Habit to Start When You’re in Menopause, According to an OBGYN and a Physical Therapist.”

    ✨Walk Daily… and with a Weighted Vest

    Walking remains one of the most accessible forms of movement — but adding a weighted vest ups the ante:

    • Increases calorie burn
    • Builds bone strength
    • Improves cardiovascular endurance
      It’s also gentle on the joints and a great way to clear your mind.

    ✨Connect with Other Women in This Season

    Menopause isn’t just physical — it’s deeply emotional. Community is medicine. Surrounding yourself with women who get it can:

    • Reduce feelings of isolation
    • Offer tips, resources, and honest conversation
    • Remind you that you’re not in this alone

    Find a circle, group, or even a walking buddy. It matters.

    ✨The Power of Bioactive Peptides

    If you’re looking to support your body from the inside out, bioactive peptides can be a game-changer. They help:

    • Improve collagen production (goodbye joint aches + skin dullness)
    • Weight management the natural way
    • Support lean muscle growth and recovery
    • Regulate inflammation and boost energy
    • Decrease mortality rates of all diseases

    Think of peptides as your secret weapon for navigating this hormonal shift with more ease and vitality. (Head to the Wellness page to learn more about the power of peptides.)

    Final Thoughts: This Isn’t the End — It’s a Reset

    Menopause isn’t something to dread. It’s a powerful rite of passage — a chance to reimagine how you take care of your body, prioritize yourself, and define your next chapter.

    Strong. Powerful. Clear. Connected. That’s the goal.

    And remember: you’re allowed to rewrite the rules on what this season looks like — and feels like.

    🔍 Educational Websites & Tools

    • NAMS (North American Menopause Society)
      Evidence-based info from top menopause experts; find a certified menopause practitioner.
    • My Menoplan
      A symptom-tracking and planning tool built by clinicians to help women navigate perimenopause and menopause.
    • Genev
      Virtual menopause care with health coaches, telehealth, articles, and community forums.

    Make Moves, Live Boldly,

  • If You Knew Tomorrow Would Change Everything, How Would You Live Today?

    January 1st started like any other day. I was out on the trails — doing what I love — feeling strong, hopeful, and excited about everything I had planned for the new year. I was having fun, taking selfies, showing off some of my favorite skincare, soaking in the fresh start that January always seems to bring. In that moment, life felt solid. Safe. Predictable.

    And then, less than 24 hours later, everything changed.

    One misstep.
    One fall.
    One accident that I never saw coming.

    The day after that first picture was taken, I found myself hurt, scared, facing a serious surgery, and unsure of what the next few months — or even the next few days — would look like. Everything I thought I could count on — my routines, my independence, my physical strength — was stripped away in a second.

    And when I look back now at the photos side by side, it almost doesn’t feel real. How can life shift so dramatically between one sunrise and the next?

    It’s a gut punch reminder that nothing is promised. Not our health. Not our plans. Not even our ability to lace up our shoes and walk out the door.

    If you knew your life could change tomorrow, how would you live today? Would you rush through it? Would you waste it on things that don’t matter or people who aren’t worthy of your time or mind space? Would you stay quiet about the dreams that are burning inside you, waiting for the “right” time?

    Or would you wake up?

    Would you say the thing you’ve been meaning to say? Would you finally take the risk? Would you stop waiting for the “perfect moment” to start living fully? Would you finally start focusing on your health and wellbeing?

    I wish I could go back and tell the version of me on January 1st:
    Savor it. Really, truly savor it. Laugh harder. Hug tighter. Trust your strength, but also respect how fragile this life is.

    But since I can’t go back, I can only move forward — differently.
    Wiser.
    Softer.
    More awake to the small, beautiful details of every day.

    The truth is, life will change. We just don’t get to choose when.

    But we do get to choose how we live right now.

    And today, I’m choosing gratitude. I’m choosing courage.
    I’m choosing to live like it could all change tomorrow — because it can.

    If you’ve been waiting for a sign to do the thing — this is it.
    Book the trip. Start the business. Write the book. Lift weights like your life depends on it — because it does. Get outside. Soak in the sun. Chase the moments that make you feel alive. Whatever it is that’s been tugging at your heart, now is the time.

    We can’t control what tomorrow brings. But we can choose to live fully today.

    Make Moves, Live Boldly!

  • Our Faces Tell A Story….

    I took these photos on my 60th birthday, just a few short weeks ago. Why? To serve as a reminder—down the road—of who I am today. 

    Every face tells a story, and I thought I’d share mine… at least up to now.

    As I look back and begin to write my story, I know it’s not about being better or worse than anyone else’s—it’s simply mine, just as yours is uniquely yours.

    I was born in Chicago, IL, on March 25, 1965. My mother was only 16 years old—a baby herself. She married my father in an attempt to break the cycle of abuse and addiction that she had grown up in.

    Unsurprisingly, the marriage didn’t last. They divorced, and my earliest memories are a patchwork of change—new towns, new schools, new faces. My uncle (my mother’s brother) always lived with us and often felt more like a brother than an uncle. He was always fun, but man, could we fight!

    We moved a lot in those early years, and while that instability could have left me feeling lost, it sparked a deep resilience instead. I learned to adapt quickly, to read a room, to find my place—or make one—wherever I landed.

    I grew up fast. There wasn’t much choice. My mom did the best she could, and I now understand the strength it must have taken just to keep going under the weight of her own unhealed wounds. I didn’t always understand her then, but I have deep compassion for her now.

    That’s the thing about wisdom—it softens you. With time and perspective, you begin to see people and situations more clearly, with less judgment and more empathy.

    My father died by suicide when I was still young. That kind of loss leaves a scar that never really fades—it just becomes part of who you are. And when I was 46, I lost my mother—she passed away at the age of 63. Far too soon. Losing both parents before I was even 50 left me with a kind of loneliness that’s hard to explain—but it also gave me a greater appreciation for life, for healing, and for showing up fully while we still have the time.

    In many ways, my childhood taught me how to survive. But over the years, I’ve worked hard to do more than just survive—I’ve fought to thrive. And with each passing decade, I’ve become more of the woman I needed when I was a girl: grounded, self-aware, fiercely protective of my boundaries, and soft where it matters.

    Turning 60 felt big—not because of the number, but because of the reflection it invited. These photos aren’t about vanity. They’re about honoring the journey: the laugh lines earned from joy and sorrow, the strength etched into my bones by years of doing the hard inner work, and the beautiful, undeniable truth that aging is a privilege.

    I’m not finished writing my story. But now, I know—I’m the author, not just a character reacting to the plot. And I hope this encourages you—whether you’re 26 or 66—to embrace your own becoming. To celebrate the chapters you’ve already lived and to look ahead with hope and optimism to the ones still being written.

  • The Key to Aging Well: Why Wellness Matters More Than Ever

    Aging is inevitable—but how we age is in our hands. The choices we make today shape how we feel, move, and thrive in the years ahead. I wish I knew at thirty, what I know today, but don’t we all?!

    That’s why I’m deeply passionate about fresh air, strength training, good nutrition, community, and the power of ingestible peptides—five wellness pillars that have transformed my own approach to aging and vitality.

    Wellness as the Foundation for Healthy Aging

    True wellness goes beyond just looking good—it’s about feeling strong, energized, and resilient as we experience life’s stages. Our bodies are constantly changing, and prioritizing wellness isn’t just a luxury—it’s a necessity for successful long-term health.

    The Hidden Danger of Being “Skinny Fat”

    Have you ever heard someone say they don’t need to focus on nutrition or exercise because they’re naturally thin? Many people focus solely on weight when assessing their health, but body composition matters more than the number on the scale. Studies have shown that people with low muscle mass but higher fat percentage—often referred to as “skinny fat”—face increased risks of metabolic disorders, osteoporosis, and early aging (Medical News Today). YES, READ THAT AGAIN!

    This is why strength training and proper nutrition are crucial, not just for aesthetics but for long-term health and longevity.

    Fresh Air: A Natural Reset for Mind and Body

    There’s something deeply rejuvenating about stepping outside, breathing in fresh air, and moving your body. Whether it’s a walk in nature, a morning run, or simply soaking in the sun, fresh air:
    ☀️ Reduces stress and enhances mental clarity
    ☀️ Supports cardiovascular health
    ☀️ Boosts immune function

    Nature has a way of reminding us to slow down, reset, and reconnect with our well-being. Nature’s benefits are highly under utilized in our healthcare system (in my opinion). If you look at other countries, it’s very common to be prescribed 30-60 minutes daily of fresh air, sunshine, and movement. I believe this is an area we can vastly improve upon, so here’s your nudge…grab your sneakers or hiking boots, and get outside!

    Strength Training: The Anti-Aging Secret

    Muscle loss is one of the biggest challenges of aging, but it’s not inevitable. Ladies, this is a big one! Strength training is one of the most powerful ways to preserve muscle, boost metabolism, and protect bone health. Incorporating resistance training into your routine can:
    💪🏼 Increase strength and mobility
    💪🏼 Reduce the risk of injury and osteoporosis
    💪🏼 Support hormone balance and longevity

    Lifting weights isn’t just about aesthetics—it’s about maintaining independence, energy, and resilience as we age. If you don’t know where to start in the gym, hire a trainer/coach.

    **Let me know if you need help, I know a lot of fitness pros who can help you get started, online or in-person.

    Good Nutrition: Fueling Longevity from the Inside Out

    What we eat plays a massive role in how we age. Food isn’t just fuel—it’s information for our cells. A diet rich in whole, nutrient-dense foods can:
    🥗 Support gut health and digestion
    🥗 Provide essential vitamins and minerals for cellular repair
    🥗 Reduce inflammation and slow down aging

    Prioritizing lean proteins (super important), healthy fats, fiber-rich vegetables, and antioxidant-packed foods helps our bodies function optimally, keeping us energized and resilient.

    Ingestible Peptides: A Game-Changer for Cellular Health

    One of the most exciting breakthroughs in wellness is the power of bioactive precision peptides.

    Exciting research is underway exploring how bioactive precision peptides can support cancer patients, as well as individuals with chronic conditions such as autoimmune diseases, metabolic disorders, and neurodegenerative diseases. Scientists are also investigating their potential in areas like gut health, muscle preservation, and overall cellular regeneration.

    These potent compounds support cellular function, helping to:
    🌱 Boost collagen production for skin, hair, and joints
    🌱 Enhance muscle recovery and performance
    🌱 Support weight loss, immune function, and overall vitality

    Since incorporating peptides into my routine, I’ve experienced noticeable changes in my energy, recovery, and overall well-being. I’ve seen firsthand how they help with muscle retention, skin elasticity, and overall resilience—things that become even more important as we age.

    This was one of the biggest reasons why I partnered with the groundbreaking company Make Wellness and launched a business helping others find solutions that are effective, science-backed, plant-based, and affordable. I truly believe that aging well shouldn’t be complicated or expensive—it should be accessible to everyone who wants to feel stronger, healthier, and more vibrant.

    Whether you’re looking to improve athletic recovery, support your skin and joints, or simply feel better in your daily life, these peptides can be a game-changer. If you’re curious about how they work or if they’re right for you, I’d love to share more about my experience!

    Power of Community in Wellness

    Wellness isn’t just about what we eat, how we move, or the supplements we take—it’s also about the people we surround ourselves with. The saying, “you are who you surround yourself with” is absolutely true. Having a strong, supportive community can make all the difference in staying motivated, accountable, and inspired on our health journeys.

    🫶 Encouragement & Support – Being part of a like-minded group can push you to stay consistent and celebrate your wins, no matter how small.
    🫶 Knowledge & Resources – The right community can introduce you to new wellness strategies, expert insights, and shared experiences that help you grow.
    🫶 Connection & Purpose – Feeling connected to others improves mental well-being, reduces stress, and reminds us that we’re not alone in our challenges.

    That’s why I’m so passionate about creating a space where people can come together, share their wellness journeys, and lift each other up. Whether it’s through Make Wellness, Instagram, or my women’s group in Facebook, I love seeing people find strength—not just in their bodies, but in the relationships they build along the way.

    At the end of the day, wellness isn’t just about aging well—it’s about living well, together. Surround yourself with people who inspire you, challenge you, and remind you that you’re capable of incredible things.

    The Bottom Line: Invest in Your Future Self

    Aging doesn’t have to mean decline—it can mean strength, vitality, and longevity. By prioritizing fresh air, strength training, good nutrition, strong communities, and the power of ingestible peptides, we can take control of how we age and live with energy and purpose.

    Wellness is an investment in your future. Are you making yourself a priority today?

  • Politics and Personal Relationships: How We Can Do Better

    Yep, I’m diving in! But don’t worry—it’s all about conversation, not confrontation.

    Let me start by asking—remember when no one knew (or cared) which political party you supported? I miss those days. But thanks to the internet and social media, those lines have been blurred forever.

    Lately, I’ve noticed a shift on LinkedIn (a platform that I thought for sure would stay out of politics), and if you’ve been there long enough, you might have noticed it too. What was once a platform primarily for professional growth, networking, and industry insights has become increasingly political. Discussions that were once reserved for other social media platforms are now front and center, with political opinions, debates, and even outright arguments filling the feed.

    This shift raises some big questions for me:
    🔹 How does this impact job seekers who rely on LinkedIn to build their careers?
    🔹 Are small business owners and entrepreneurs feeling more (or less) freedom to be authentic—or more pressure to take a stance?
    🔹 Are companies making hiring or business decisions based on political beliefs?

    This shift got me thinking: Is there a way to have these discussions without damaging personal and professional relationships? Because whether we like it or not, politics is everywhere—our workplaces, social circles, and even family gatherings. And while being informed and engaged is important, the growing polarization has also created deep divisions.

    But does it have to be this way? Can we explore political differences without making everything a battleground? I believe we can. And that’s why I’m going all in on this conversation, because it’s as much for me as it is for you.

    The Rise of Political Polarization

    There’s no denying that political discourse has become more intense. Social media and search engines are designed to amplify opinions, often creating echo chambers where we’re only exposed to perspectives that reinforce our own. Meanwhile, news outlets tailor content to specific ideologies, making it easier than ever to stay within our comfort zones.

    Here’s a thought-provoking challenge: Try searching for the same topic as a friend or colleague and compare your results. Chances are, you’ll see different information. That’s not a coincidence—it’s by design. If you’ve seen The Social Dilemma, you know how algorithms shape what we see, subtly influencing our beliefs and interactions. In many ways, we’re all being manipulated—whether we realize it or not.

    Check out this short clip (it’s a fascinating documentary worth watching):

    But here’s the reality: No two people will ever agree on everything. Expecting complete alignment—whether in politics, religion, or lifestyle choices—is unrealistic. Healthy relationships and societies are built on diverse perspectives and respectful debate, not total agreement.

    And here’s another reality: Every time a new political administration takes power, those who didn’t vote for them will inevitably find fault with their decisions. It’s a predictable cycle—one side cheers, the other side critiques. Policies shift, priorities change, and no matter who’s in charge, opposition always finds something to criticize.

    Oh, and one more thing—you can’t judge someone’s political beliefs by their appearance or lifestyle. Wearing a flag shirt, driving a certain car, or listening to country music doesn’t automatically place someone in a political box. We need to move past stereotypes and stop making assumptions about people.

    We are complex human beings, shaped by diverse experiences and values. While we may lean one way or the other, few of us align 100% with any party. We hold nuanced opinions, disagree even with “our own side” at times, and make decisions based on more than just political labels. It’s a reminder that real conversations—not assumptions—are what truly help us understand one another.

    Why Losing Relationships Over Politics Isn’t Worth It

    At the end of the day, our relationships—whether personal or professional—are built on much more than political views. Shared experiences, mutual support, and personal history should matter more than a difference in voting decisions.

    Ask yourself:
    ✅ Will today’s political debate matter in five years?
    ✅ Does winning an argument feel better than maintaining a meaningful relationship?
    ✅ Are you listening to understand, or just waiting to respond?

    Of course, some differences are deeply personal, and certain beliefs may feel harder to reconcile. But in most cases, a disagreement doesn’t have to mean the end of a relationship—especially if both people approach the conversation with mutual respect.

    How to Be More Tolerant of Different Views

    1. Practice Active Listening – Instead of reacting immediately, take a moment to truly hear the other person’s perspective. Ask questions, seek understanding, and look for common ground.
    2. Recognize That People’s Experiences Shape Their Views (this is HUGE)– Backgrounds, upbringings, and life experiences influence opinions. Understanding someone’s story can help bridge divides.
    3. Agree to Disagree – Not every conversation needs a resolution. Sometimes, the best approach is to acknowledge the difference and move on.
    4. Know When to Walk Away – If a discussion becomes heated or unproductive, it’s okay to change the subject or take a break. Protecting your peace is just as important as expressing your views.
    5. Respect Boundaries – If someone prefers not to discuss politics, honor that. Forcing the conversation rarely leads to positive outcomes.
    6. Lead with Kindness (this should actually be first on the list)– You don’t have to agree with someone to treat them with respect. Kindness and civility go a long way in keeping relationships intact.

    Bringing It All Together

    Politics may be more visible than ever—especially on platforms like LinkedIn—but it doesn’t have to define our relationships. We can choose to engage with openness, prioritize understanding over division, and remind ourselves that people are more than their political beliefs.

    Disagreements are inevitable, but how we handle them is a choice. By focusing on respect, listening, and the bigger picture, we can create healthier conversations and, more importantly, stronger relationships—both online and offline.

    💬 What do you think? Have you found ways to share political differences while maintaining important relationships? Let’s talk about it below!

    Let’s Connect!

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  • A Tribute to My Mother on My 60th Birthday

    Sixty years—a milestone that makes me pause and reflect on the journey that has brought me here. As I step into this new decade, my heart is filled with gratitude for the woman who shaped me, guided me, and loved me unconditionally: my mother.

    From my earliest memories, my mother was the constant force in my life. My Northstar. She was my first teacher, my fiercest protector, and my greatest cheerleader. She taught me resilience when times were tough, grace when challenges seemed insurmountable, and kindness as the foundation of every interaction. Her lessons were never just words; they were actions—woven into the fabric of everyday life.

    She showed me what strength looked like—not the loud or boastful kind, but the quiet, unwavering strength that gets up every morning, faces the world with determination, and gives selflessly to others. Whether it was late nights spent tending to me when I was sick, standing by my side during life’s difficult moments, or celebrating every small and big victory, she was always there.

    My mother’s love was never conditional. It was steady, enduring, and boundless. She had an incredible way of making me feel that no matter what life threw my way, I would be okay because I had her belief in me. And that belief? It became the foundation for my own self-confidence, for the courage to chase my dreams, and for the wisdom to navigate life’s twists and turns.

    Now, at sixty, I look back and realize how much of her is in me. The values she instilled, the love she gave, and the sacrifices she made—they are all etched into the person I have become. And though time has passed, her presence in my life remains just as strong, whether in memories, in the values I carry forward, or in the way I love those around me.

    So this week, as I celebrate this milestone, I dedicate it to my mother. To her love, her lessons, and her legacy. Because without her, I would not be the person I am today. And for that, I am forever grateful.

    Here’s to you, Mom—my guiding light, my heart, my home. Thank you for everything.

    Let’s Connect!

  • Think Different, Act Bold: How to Become a Disruptor in Your Field (and in Life)!

    In a world that rewards comfort and routine, disruptors are the ones rewriting the rules. They challenge outdated systems, innovate where others settle, and redefine success on their own terms. They don’t wait for change—they create it.

    So, are you playing it safe, or are you ready to disrupt (a question I often ask myself)?

    What It Means to Be a Disruptor

    Being a disruptor doesn’t mean causing chaos for the sake of it. It means thinking differently, taking bold action, and refusing to accept limitations. Disruptors don’t ask for permission to succeed. They carve their own paths and, in doing so, inspire others to follow.

    The Disruptor’s Playbook: 5 Ways to Shake Up the Status Quo

    Want to break free (like me) from the norm and make an impact? Here’s how:

    1. Challenge the Standard Thinking

    Just because something has always been done a certain way doesn’t mean it’s the best way, and honestly, nothing annoys me more than to hear “but, we’ve always done it that way.” ALWAYS question the norm. Look at your industry, career, or personal life and ask, What could be better? What’s missing? Disruptors don’t accept “good enough”—they push for better.

    2. Take Risks Others Won’t

    Most people hesitate when faced with uncertainty. Disruptors see risk as opportunity. Whether it’s launching a new venture, pivoting careers, or speaking up about an issue, they lean into discomfort and bet on themselves.

    3. Show Up Unapologetically

    The world tries to fit people into neat little boxes. Disruptors break them. They build personal brands, businesses, and movements by being authentically themselves—even when it goes against the grain.

    4. Surround Yourself with Bold Thinkers

    Your circle influences your mindset. Want to think bigger? Connect with people who challenge and inspire you. Join communities of innovators, follow thought leaders, and engage in conversations that push your limits. A great way to start? Listen to disruptors in action.

    🎙️ Podcasts for Disruptors:

    5. Take Action—Now

    Most people overthink, wait for the “right time,” and stay stuck in planning mode. STOP WAITING! Disruptors execute. They don’t wait for approval; they make moves and adjust along the way. The key to disruption isn’t just thinking differently—it’s acting on it.

    The Game Changers: Famous Disruptors Who Redefined Success

    Need proof that disruption leads to greatness? Look at these innovators who shattered expectations:

    🔥 Elon Musk – Transformed the auto and space industries with Tesla and SpaceX, proving electric cars and private space travel weren’t just ideas—they were the future.

    🔥 Oprah Winfrey – Broke barriers in media, redefining what was possible for women and people of color in television and beyond.

    🔥 Steve Jobs – Changed how we interact with technology by making design, functionality, and innovation inseparable.

    🔥 Sara Blakely – Turned $5,000 and a simple idea into Spanx, revolutionizing an industry that doubted her.

    🔥 Brené Brown – Disrupted traditional leadership thinking by proving vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness.

    Want to Think Like a Disruptor? Start Reading

    📚 Books That Will Change How You See Success

    • Be the One – Justin Prince → A powerful book on mindset, leadership, and stepping into your full potential.
    • The 10X Rule – Grant Cardone → Why thinking bigger and taking massive action is the only way to dominate.
    • Dare to Lead – Brené Brown → Leadership through courage, authenticity, and vulnerability.
    • The Hard Thing About Hard Things – Ben Horowitz → The unfiltered truth about entrepreneurship and leadership in disruptive times.
    • Think and Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill → A timeless classic on success, wealth, and breaking limitations.

    🎧 You’re going to want to carve out 15-minutes, and grab your airpods to listen to this wisdom. 🎧

    One of the most iconic disruptors of our time, Steve Jobs, shared his perspective on innovation and resilience in his 2005 Stanford Commencement Address—a speech that has since gained over 45 million views on YouTube. In this heartfelt talk, Jobs recounts pivotal moments in his life, from dropping out of college to launching Apple, getting fired, and coming back stronger than ever. His advice—“Stay hungry, stay foolish”—is a call to action for anyone looking to challenge the status quo and make a real impact. Watch the speech below and ask yourself: How can you think differently?

    Disrupt or Be Disrupted: It’s Your Move

    The world doesn’t wait for people to step up—you have to choose to make an impact.

    💡 What’s one way you can disrupt the norm in your life or business today? Drop a comment and let’s talk about it.

    Make Moves, Live Boldly,

    Let’s connect!

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  • The Hustle You Look Down On Might Be Someone Else’s Gold Mine!

    As a small business owner who knows a lot of entrepreneurs and fellow business owners, I’ve always admired the hustle it takes to build something from the ground up. But recently, I had a humbling realization—I never really thought about the people behind the scenes, doing the work that many wouldn’t even consider a business.

    While recovering from ankle surgery, I needed help with a not-so-glamorous task—removing dog waste from my yard. Let’s be real: most people wouldn’t jump at the chance to do that job. But I found a guy who not only runs a dog waste removal business but also trims trees on the side. This is definitely not something I’ve thought about in the entrepreneurial realm, but “John” is absolutely an entrepreneur who is building a successful business with extreme pride, humility, and a great sense of humor! And guess what? He’s making serious money.

    It got me thinking about how we often dismiss certain jobs as “beneath” us or unworthy of consideration. We assume that success only comes in sleek offices, high-profile careers, or trending side hustles. But the reality? Some of the most successful businesses are built on the jobs that many wouldn’t even consider.

    Here’s a great quote from Mike Rowe, the host of Dirty Jobs, who has spent years highlighting hardworking entrepreneurs who built successful businesses from labor-intensive work:

    “Happiness does not come from a job. It comes from knowing what you truly value and behaving in a way that’s consistent with those beliefs.” – Mike Rowe

    Think about it—trash collection, cleaning services, mobile car detailing, power washing. These aren’t jobs people dream about as kids, but they are industries where entrepreneurs are thriving, building wealth, and creating legacies.

    The moral of the story? Don’t be too quick to turn our nose up at an opportunity. The thing we think is “too small” or “not worth it” might just be someone else’s path to financial freedom. The key isn’t what we do—it’s how well we do it, how we scale it, and how we serve a need.

    So before dismissing a side hustle as “not good enough,” remember: someone out there is making a killing doing it. And they’re laughing all the way to the bank.

    Do you have an idea of something you’d like to turn into a side hustle? Let’s talk about it in the comments!

    Make moves, live boldly!

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  • Surviving a Narcissist: The Toxicity, The Chaos, and The Lessons

    Have you ever been the target of a narcissist? If so, you know the mental gymnastics, the manipulation, and the relentless toxicity that come with it. If you haven’t—consider yourself lucky.

    It wasn’t until later in my adult life and career that a narcissist quietly infiltrated my world. My narcissist disguised themselves as good, pure, loving, and honorable—a true chameleon. At first, it was all rainbows and butterflies—until, suddenly, I had no idea what hit me.

    My fight-or-flight instinct kicked in, but instead of running, I looked around at others, who seemed fine, and thought, “It must be me.” (Ugh…a home run for the narcissist.)

    The ironic part? The moment I started confiding in friends and family, they immediately said, “You’re dealing with a narcissist.” It wasn’t one big, obvious event—it was a slow, calculated unraveling. A series of tiny, almost imperceptible manipulations that built the foundation for something far more damaging.

    Fortunately for me, our relationship ended abruptly. At first, I was in shock. But with time—and a lot of self-reflection—I finally felt something I hadn’t in a long time: I could breathe again. Really breathe.

    I was recently talking to a friend about the crushing grip narcissists have on their victims and the slow surrender we unknowingly give them. It’s a psychological game—one designed to strip away your confidence and leave you questioning your reality. And escaping? That’s another battle entirely for so many.

    Breaking free from a narcissist feels like emerging from a cult-like trance—your identity shaken to its core. Thank goodness for the self-help section on Amazon, podcasts, and therapy, right?!

    The Narcissist’s Playbook: A Masterclass in Manipulation

    At first, they charm you (This is known as the honeymoon phase.). They praise your work, admire your talents, and build you up—only to slowly chip away at your confidence. The gaslighting is subtle at first:

    🌀 “I never said that.” (They did.)
    🌀 “I’m sorry you feel that way.” (Zero accountability.)
    🌀 “I’ve done so much for you, and it’s not appreciated.” (Lies.)

    Before you know it, you’re walking on eggshells, second-guessing yourself, and questioning truths you once knew. That’s the toxicity of a narcissist—they LITERALLY rewrite reality to serve their ego.

    The Fallout: Breaking Free from the Cycle

    Realizing you’re in a narcissist’s grip feels like waking up from a nightmare you didn’t know you were trapped in. You start seeing the patterns, the control, the meanness, the manipulation—but getting out? That’s where the real fight begins, especially for those married to one (for the sake of my husband, I want to clarify that I’m not referring to him here).

    Narcissists don’t let go easily. They crave control. They twist narratives, spread lies, and play the victim to maintain their power. And when you finally break free? They’ll do everything in their power to paint you as the villain.

    The Lesson: Reclaiming Your Power

    Here’s the good news—you learn. You recognize the red flags sooner. You set boundaries quicker and stronger. And most importantly, you take back your power!

    If you’ve been through this, you’re not alone. The scars narcissists leave behind are real, but they’re also proof that you survived.

    Want to Outsmart a Narcissist? Listen to This.

    Mel Robbins has hosted remarkable guests who break down the psychology of narcissists—and, more importantly, how to break free from their grip. If you haven’t listened to “Outsmart a Narcissist: A Proven 4-Step Plan to Take Your Power Back,“ it’s a must, so grab your 🎧 headphones and listen with intention and purpose.

    I listened to it on a hike—the place I go to find clarity. I’d love to know what you think after you listen to the full episode.

    For anyone who needs some tips and strategies, I’m including a great resource I found from The Counseling Center Group. Here is “How to Handle a Narcissist: 8 Effective Strategies For Self-Care.“

    Have you ever dealt with a narcissist? Drop a comment or share your experience—because the more we talk about it, the more we reclaim our power, and the more we help others.

    Make moves, live boldly!

    2 responses to “Surviving a Narcissist: The Toxicity, The Chaos, and The Lessons”

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      Anonymous

      You nailed it! Thanks for sharing and reminding us to assess all relationships. Life’s too short to spend time with the wrong people.

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        Denise Irving

        Thank you so much for reading my post, and I’m glad it resonated with you. For people who haven’t experienced this behavior it can take some time to realize what is happening in the relationship.

        Assessing all relationship is spot on!

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