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  • Start Scared: Why Fear Doesn’t Mean You’re Not Ready

    I almost didn’t do it.

    So many idea(s) lived rent-free in my brain for months—maybe years. A challenging trail race. A new podcast. This blog. A bold business pivot. A launch in an industry completely foreign to me.

    Each one, pushed off until I felt “ready.” But every time I got close, that familiar voice whispered:

    “Who do you think you are?”
    “What if you fail?”
    “What will people say?”

    Sound familiar? Hello, imposter syndrome, right?!

    Fear has a way of showing up the moment you’re standing on the edge of something important. It tries to protect you by keeping you small, safe, and stuck. But here’s the truth I’ve learned over and over again: you don’t need to feel fearless to start—you just need to move through the fear anyway. And yes, it’s hard.

    Fear Isn’t a Stop Sign 🛑

    We often wait for fear to disappear before we act. But fear doesn’t vanish with time—it quiets down after you start.

    The fear of judgment, failure, or looking like a beginner? Those things feel massive—until you do the thing and realize: you survived. You grew. You’re still standing—stronger, actually.

    And for every person silently hoping you’ll fail? There are so many more watching and cheering for your success.

    And, this might come as a shock…but, no one is thinking about you as much as you think they are. (Seriously.)

    My Turning Point 🌟

    My shift came when I stopped tying my worth to the outcome and started attaching it to the action. That—in the space between fear and movement—is where I believe real impact lives.

    I realized I could be scared and still be ready.
    I could be unsure and still show up.
    I could take messy steps and still make progress.

    I launched the podcast.
    I took the leap into a new business.
    I said yes to the scary things—while my hands were shaking. While the vulnerability felt suffocating, but here I am, alive and kicking. Fear doesn’t kill you, it helps you thrive.

    And you know what? Every single time I’ve done that, I’ve met a new version of myself. Or maybe… I just elevated the one that was already there. (You know what I mean.)

    What’s Waiting on the Other Side 🚀 

    When you move past fear, even just a little, you build trust in yourself. You stop outsourcing your power to perfect timing, approval, or guarantees. You start building momentum—and confidence follows.

    Yes, fear still shows up. That voice doesn’t disappear. But it gets quieter when action gets louder.

    Start Scared. Start Small. Just Start.🔥

    You don’t have to launch the whole thing today. Do it in phases if you have to, but you can take the first step. Book the call. Write the page. Post the idea. Say it out loud. LEAN IN!!

    The momentum you’re craving? It’s already waiting on the other side of that one brave action.

    So here’s your permission slip: You don’t need to be fearless—just brave for 30 seconds.

    I’m cheering for you. Always.

    Denise xo

  • Confessions of an Overthinker (Hi, It’s Me 👋)

    Hey you! Yeah, you… Are you an overthinker?

    I was talking to a friend today — another serial overthinker whose name shall remain confidential (we’ll call her Nancy to protect her identity 😉).

    Nancy and I were working on customer follow-ups when we both had an aha moment: shorter, more authentic communication is better for the customer and better for us. And yet… there we were, overthinking it to death. Sound familiar?

    Let’s be real — overthinking is exhausting. You replay conversations, second-guess your ideas, delay decisions, and procrastinate on important stuff because… what if it’s not perfect? Cue the sigh. Overthinking feels productive, but it’s actually a master thief — stealing your clarity, confidence, and energy.

    Worse? It feeds right into imposter syndrome. So really, what are we doing?!

    It’s the fast track to paralysis analysis — too many options, too much pressure, and very little action.

    But here’s the truth bomb:
    👉 You don’t need more information. You need more self-trust.
    And trust doesn’t come from being perfect — it comes from taking messy, meaningful action.

    So let’s break the cycle and talk about how to get out of your head and back into alignment.

    Why We Overthink:

    • Fear of failure – We just want to get it right.
    • Imposter syndrome – We doubt we’re enough.
    • Perfectionism – We think every move must be flawless.
    • People pleasing – We’re afraid of disappointing others.

    Spoiler alert: Overthinking doesn’t protect us — it just keeps us stuck.

    🔥 The antidote? Think less. Trust more.

    10 Pro Tips to Overcome Overthinking + Trust Yourself More

    1. Name the Fear
      Get real with yourself: what are you actually afraid of? Naming it takes away its power. Write it down. Say it out loud. Shine a light on it. (Ugh, yes… totally me.)
    2. Try the 5-5-5 Rule
      Ask: Will this matter in 5 days, 5 months, or 5 years?
      Spoiler: probably not. Let it go.
    3. Set a 10-Minute Timer for Decisions
      Your gut usually knows. Give yourself a time limit, listen to your intuition, and go.
    4. Shift from “What If” to “Even If”
      Swap “what if I fail?” for “even if I fail, I’ll learn and grow.”
      That’s where real confidence begins.
    5. Take Imperfect Action
      Progress > perfection. Every time. People are surprisingly forgiving of imperfection when you’re being real.
    6. Create a Daily “Get Unstuck” Ritual
      Walk. Meditate. Dance. Journal. Pray. Voice-record your spiraling thoughts and play them back — they’ll usually sound way less scary than they feel.
    7. Surround Yourself with Action-Takers
      Energy is contagious. Hang with people who move forward, trust themselves, and make bold choices. You’ll soak it up.
    8. Cut the Info Overload
      More content doesn’t equal more clarity. Unfollow, unsubscribe, and tune back in to your own voice.
    9. Anchor into Your Values
      Ask: Is this aligned with who I am and what matters to me? If yes — go. If no — pause.
    10. Celebrate the Tiny Wins
      Confidence is built one decision at a time. Track the small stuff. Reflect weekly on what went right, not just what went sideways.

    🌟 Bonus Tip:
    Stop using ChatGPT for EVERYTHING. Your voice matters. People want your words, your stories, your quirky brilliance. Use tools to enhance, not replace, your authenticity.

    Final Thought

    You’re not here to be perfect. You’re here to be real, honest, and brave. Overthinking won’t get you there — but aligned, imperfect action will.

    So the next time you’re spiraling, pause and ask:

    “What would I do if I trusted myself completely?”

    Then… do that.

    No need to go all in right away — pick a couple of tips to try and ease into the anti-overthinking life. Baby steps, my friend. That’s the vibe I’m going with.

    I’d love to hear how you’re breaking the overthinking habit. Drop a comment, and let’s elevate each other.

    Make Moves & Live Boldly,


    Denise xo

  • Who’s Training Who? My Dogs Might Be the Real Life Gurus

    I’ve hired and worked with many consultants over the course of my career, taken many leadership training classes, subscribed to podcasts, and read and highlighted pages in some of my favorite personal development books. But it turns out, my best life coaches have been at my side (and under my desk) this whole time. They have four legs, fur, and absolutely no understanding of personal space. NONE.

    Meet Stanley and Stella — my rescue pups, my furry soulmates, and, as I’ve recently realized, my life coaches. They may not have diplomas and degrees, but they’ve got great insight. Their wisdom is simple, consistent, and always delivered with a tail wag…especially when treats are involved.

    Masters of Presence
    Stanley doesn’t care about what happened yesterday. Stella isn’t worried about next Tuesday’s meeting. They are fully present. They remind me to stop overthinking, to notice the breeze on a walk, and to enjoy the moment I’m in. When we’re outside, they’re not scrolling, comparing, or planning. They’re living. That’s a lesson I didn’t know I needed.

    Loyalty and Love, Unfiltered
    There is something grounding about coming home to a pair of dogs who act like you’ve been gone for years, even if it’s only been 20 minutes. I mean, seriously, they lose their minds! Their loyalty is unwavering. They remind me to nurture relationships that feel that steady and supportive. If your people don’t light up when you walk in the room, find the ones who do.

    Boundaries Are Everything (except when it comes to personal space..then forget it)
    When Stanley is done for the day, he’s done. He doesn’t ask for permission to take a nap in a sunny corner of the room. He doesn’t feel guilty about rest. He plays hard and rests harder. Stella, on the other hand, has a clear internal clock. She knows when it’s time to pause and when it’s time to move. Lesson learned: rest is productive. Recharge like your well-being depends on it — because it does.

    No Overthinking Allowed (this is a big one, guys!)
    Dogs don’t spiral. They don’t get imposter syndrome or anxiety over what someone meant by “see you soon,” or “k.” They show up exactly as they are. Stella walks into a room like she owns it (and let’s be real, she does). That kind of confidence is contagious. She teaches me to stop second-guessing and start trusting my gut.

    Here’s another life lesson…sometimes when someone says “k” or “see you soon” that’s all it means. Nothing else…just acknowledgement. Let’s try to keep that in check. We don’t have to overanalyze every. single. thing. Dogs sure don’t!

    Consistency Is Queen (and King)
    Walks, meals, treats, and bedtime routines — dogs thrive on structure. And when I stick to a rhythm with them, I thrive too. They’ve taught me that consistency doesn’t mean boring; it means steady growth, predictable peace, and sustainable habits. Showing up daily (even for a walk around the block) is more powerful than waiting for the “perfect” moment.

    So, What If We Took a Page from Their Playbook?

    Stanley and Stella don’t need apps, calendars, or vision boards. They just need love, movement, rest, and purpose. And maybe some peanut butter. They remind me that being present, showing love, setting boundaries, trusting myself, minding my business, and staying consistent are more than just life lessons — they’re a lifestyle.

    My final lesson today? Technically, I’m the one holding the leash—but when it comes to life lessons, they’re leading the pack. 😉

    Make Moves, Live Boldly!

    Denise xo

    **Got a furry life coach of your own? Drop their name and best lesson below!

  • If You Knew Tomorrow Would Change Everything, How Would You Live Today?

    January 1st started like any other day. I was out on the trails — doing what I love — feeling strong, hopeful, and excited about everything I had planned for the new year. I was having fun, taking selfies, showing off some of my favorite skincare, soaking in the fresh start that January always seems to bring. In that moment, life felt solid. Safe. Predictable.

    And then, less than 24 hours later, everything changed.

    One misstep.
    One fall.
    One accident that I never saw coming.

    The day after that first picture was taken, I found myself hurt, scared, facing a serious surgery, and unsure of what the next few months — or even the next few days — would look like. Everything I thought I could count on — my routines, my independence, my physical strength — was stripped away in a second.

    And when I look back now at the photos side by side, it almost doesn’t feel real. How can life shift so dramatically between one sunrise and the next?

    It’s a gut punch reminder that nothing is promised. Not our health. Not our plans. Not even our ability to lace up our shoes and walk out the door.

    If you knew your life could change tomorrow, how would you live today? Would you rush through it? Would you waste it on things that don’t matter or people who aren’t worthy of your time or mind space? Would you stay quiet about the dreams that are burning inside you, waiting for the “right” time?

    Or would you wake up?

    Would you say the thing you’ve been meaning to say? Would you finally take the risk? Would you stop waiting for the “perfect moment” to start living fully? Would you finally start focusing on your health and wellbeing?

    I wish I could go back and tell the version of me on January 1st:
    Savor it. Really, truly savor it. Laugh harder. Hug tighter. Trust your strength, but also respect how fragile this life is.

    But since I can’t go back, I can only move forward — differently.
    Wiser.
    Softer.
    More awake to the small, beautiful details of every day.

    The truth is, life will change. We just don’t get to choose when.

    But we do get to choose how we live right now.

    And today, I’m choosing gratitude. I’m choosing courage.
    I’m choosing to live like it could all change tomorrow — because it can.

    If you’ve been waiting for a sign to do the thing — this is it.
    Book the trip. Start the business. Write the book. Lift weights like your life depends on it — because it does. Get outside. Soak in the sun. Chase the moments that make you feel alive. Whatever it is that’s been tugging at your heart, now is the time.

    We can’t control what tomorrow brings. But we can choose to live fully today.

    Make Moves, Live Boldly!

  • Our Faces Tell A Story….

    I took these photos on my 60th birthday, just a few short weeks ago. Why? To serve as a reminder—down the road—of who I am today. 

    Every face tells a story, and I thought I’d share mine… at least up to now.

    As I look back and begin to write my story, I know it’s not about being better or worse than anyone else’s—it’s simply mine, just as yours is uniquely yours.

    I was born in Chicago, IL, on March 25, 1965. My mother was only 16 years old—a baby herself. She married my father in an attempt to break the cycle of abuse and addiction that she had grown up in.

    Unsurprisingly, the marriage didn’t last. They divorced, and my earliest memories are a patchwork of change—new towns, new schools, new faces. My uncle (my mother’s brother) always lived with us and often felt more like a brother than an uncle. He was always fun, but man, could we fight!

    We moved a lot in those early years, and while that instability could have left me feeling lost, it sparked a deep resilience instead. I learned to adapt quickly, to read a room, to find my place—or make one—wherever I landed.

    I grew up fast. There wasn’t much choice. My mom did the best she could, and I now understand the strength it must have taken just to keep going under the weight of her own unhealed wounds. I didn’t always understand her then, but I have deep compassion for her now.

    That’s the thing about wisdom—it softens you. With time and perspective, you begin to see people and situations more clearly, with less judgment and more empathy.

    My father died by suicide when I was still young. That kind of loss leaves a scar that never really fades—it just becomes part of who you are. And when I was 46, I lost my mother—she passed away at the age of 63. Far too soon. Losing both parents before I was even 50 left me with a kind of loneliness that’s hard to explain—but it also gave me a greater appreciation for life, for healing, and for showing up fully while we still have the time.

    In many ways, my childhood taught me how to survive. But over the years, I’ve worked hard to do more than just survive—I’ve fought to thrive. And with each passing decade, I’ve become more of the woman I needed when I was a girl: grounded, self-aware, fiercely protective of my boundaries, and soft where it matters.

    Turning 60 felt big—not because of the number, but because of the reflection it invited. These photos aren’t about vanity. They’re about honoring the journey: the laugh lines earned from joy and sorrow, the strength etched into my bones by years of doing the hard inner work, and the beautiful, undeniable truth that aging is a privilege.

    I’m not finished writing my story. But now, I know—I’m the author, not just a character reacting to the plot. And I hope this encourages you—whether you’re 26 or 66—to embrace your own becoming. To celebrate the chapters you’ve already lived and to look ahead with hope and optimism to the ones still being written.

  • Navigating a Fast World on a Slow Path

    I was chatting with a friend and mentioned I was having a tough day. After listening, she encouraged me to write about it. So, her push for me to be open and honest led to this post—a raw reflection of my frustration and reality.

    I never imagined a shattered ankle would be my wake-up call, but life has a way of delivering unexpected lessons. One moment, I was moving effortlessly through my days; the next, I was sidelined, kicked out of my active lifestyle—grappling with anxiety, depression, relying on others for the smallest of tasks, and adjusting to life with a walker, knee scooter, and boot. Suddenly, I was forced to see the world through a completely different lens, confronting the daily frustrations of a society that isn’t designed for those with mobility challenges.

    Imagine going from living independently to carefully strategizing how to get in and out of your own home. Let me tell ya, it sucks! Simple movements become calculated efforts, and every outing feels like an obstacle course. It’s a humbling shift that opened my eyes to struggles so many people face—struggles often invisible in a world built for speed and convenience.

    From the moment I left the hospital, one truth became painfully clear: our society prioritizes efficiency and accessibility, but only for the able-bodied.

    The simplest tasks—getting through a doorway, maneuvering through a store, getting in and out of cars, climbing stairs, cooking, or even navigating sidewalks—become daunting obstacles. True resilience isn’t just about physical strength; it’s about adapting, problem-solving, and pushing forward in a world that often isn’t built for everyone.

    The Everyday Struggles We Don’t See

    Before my injury, I never noticed how difficult it was to find a ramp that wasn’t blocked or how hard it was to navigate a crowded space without feeling like an inconvenience. Now, I have no choice but to experience it firsthand. Doors without automatic openers, uneven sidewalks, narrow aisles, inaccessible bathrooms—barriers I had overlooked were now glaringly obvious.

    I find myself exhausted, not just from the physical strain of getting around, but from the constant mental calculations required to do basic things. And if I, someone with a temporary injury, feel this way, what about those who face these challenges every single day?

    The Fight to Live Fully

    The real flex…despite these obstacles, people with disabilities courageously push forward, building careers, chasing dreams, and making an impact—all while navigating a world that often forgets them. Their perseverance isn’t just inspiring; it’s a testament to the human spirit.

    But should it be this hard? Should people have to fight this much just to live a fulfilling life? Absolutely NOT!

    Slowing Down and Showing Up

    This experience has made me more aware, compassionate, and determined to do better moving forward. Accessibility isn’t just about ramps and wider doorways—it’s about mindset. It’s about slowing down long enough to notice who is being left behind and taking action.

    So, let’s pause. Let’s take an extra few seconds to hold a door, clear a path, offer assistance, or simply acknowledge that not everyone can keep up with the chaotic pace of the world.

    Because if life is moving too fast for us to extend a hand, maybe it’s time to rethink the way we’re moving altogether.

    True progress isn’t just about innovation, but inclusion. The burden of accessibility shouldn’t fall solely on those who struggle—it should be a shared responsibility. If we all take small steps toward awareness and action, we can create a world where no one feels like an afterthought.

    I found this great article: 15 Ways to Show Kindness to People with Disabilities—it offers small but meaningful ways to make a difference. Because the goal isn’t just to help people get by; it’s to empower them to excel.

    As I close, the question I will ask myself as I slowly begin to get my legs under me again: How can I be a better human and help those individuals not just get by, but truly thrive?

    I’d love to hear your thoughts. Drop a comment, and let’s talk!👇🏼

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